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Breaking Old Patterns

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by Candace Liccione

We are seeing a lot of bad behavior in our lives and in the world lately. Some days, it seems as if the world was populated only by toddlers. People around us are having meltdowns, anger issues and trouble dealing with their emotional issues.

Lots of people come through the door of my shop and since we are a creativity and wellness shop, people know it is okay to share their issues with us. Recently, a lady came in and somehow the talk came around to her having issues with her sisters and about them giving her unwanted advice that ended up in upset and fighting. As she described her issues with her sisters, I realized that all this trouble reached into the past from childhood. It was sibling rivalry that started long ago and was brought forward as a pattern that they have repeated for years. She wanted to know what to do.

I mentioned that I have had the same issue in my life. I finally realized if I just thanked the person for the advice, the conversation was over. I didn’t have to say yes or no to their advice, just thanked them for their input. She said “how do I do that?” and my advice was all you have to do when it happens next time is say “thank you for the advice.”

We need to let go of old patterns, family patterns, old beliefs, old reactions we have from our childhood and have carried into our adult lives. When you come in conflict with someone, just stop yourself from getting upset by taking a deep breath and don’t take it personally. Make yourself handle it in a different way so you can break the old pattern. It’s easy but you have to catch yourself and not go into old reactions.

Keep your words and thoughts positive, stop complaining, change your self-talk and just be aware that if things aren’t flowing in your life, that you are stuck in old behaviors and patterns and that you can simply change your thoughts and change your life.

Listen to Candace talk about this topic on Healing Life Wisdom Radio on-demand.

 
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